Ultimate shoulder rides

That sounds like a nice experience, Shoulderriderxx!

Being a carrier I can certainly second Audreys statements. From my own experience I also noticed that I'm getting more and more submissive the longer and often a rider sits on top. Surprisingly this also works if she's not actively riding but sits on me in a stationary position. Psychology can be a strange but powerful thing I guess..  with a new rider on top and someone I feel is less dominant, I will naturally test my limits and her will to dominate me. Don't get me wrong those are just subtle signs of resistance but a determined and experienced  rider will surely notice and will punish such behaviour of mine. A rider who exhibits this dominant behaviour from the very second she sits on top, I'm usually less inclined to resist. For example,  at some point during the ride I will start to feel exhausted. If she continues the ride I will be even more exhausted. But with a less dominant rider I would dare and ask her to stop and allow me to rest. Being under a dominant rider I wouldn't less likely ask no matter how exhausted and desperate I am because I know she will say no, or will stay seated on top or even worse will use spurs and crop on me.

And this 'transition' from being just a carrier on a first ride to something like the most submissive beast of burden is faster the more of a dominant rider you have on top. At least at some point in time after maybe several months I don't feel like serving a rider but almost like serving a goddess. Being ridden or sat on very often you start to amplify that person into something very special. This is hard to explain but carriers probably know what I'm talking about. You just don't serve anymore, you try to anticipate what she would like you to do next. You don't care about your own exhaustion that much anymore but instead you try and avoid any discomfort for her on top and you want to be a good horse or a good seat for her. You are concerned that she has a comfortable seat on top of your shoulders/neck/back or whereever she chooses to sit. You don't wait until you're told to kneel down, you simply are on all fours already so she can sit on you at any time.

Do riders notice the same change in their carriers over time? Or do you notice a change in yourself? Riding a disciplined carrier, is this something you feel rewarded for investing so much time training him/her? Or does it get boring because you have 'achieved' everything and it is not challenging/interesting anymore?

alex

I have had  very  few  instances of men  failing to lift  me as an adult or struggling to bear my weight  sitting on their  backs.

But  my  point/advice  is   that a rider  should  always be  a rider  with any  single carrier.
If  the  person  also  likes to lift  and carry other,  he  should carry  a different person  than the one he rides. 
Keeping  the  carrier as  subservient  will  usually  lead to a better experience  for  both  the rider and carrier.  There  is  no  reason to be specifically  cruel in  this  but  whether on his shoulders or on all fours,  the rider should sit on the carrier as if  you  own him. Don't treat it as a joke or  spare him  your  weight,  Most carriers want to feel used and  treated as inferior to  some extent.
Both will be  more satisfied in the long term  if  there is  no  confusion  in  their roles.