Ultimate shoulder rides

There are about ten female members registrated to this group, maybe even a few more. But so far except one of those they chose to be silent members so I am afraid you won't get too much answers from the ladies.

Louie

RidingBlonde wrote:

To use an expression I used to hear in school, weirdsville.   

With people eating worms on TV, and doing other things that seem a bit odd, I can't see anything to be ashamed of or shy about when it comes to shoulder riding, even if it isn't something EVERYBODY likes.  I don't particularly enjoy Brussels sprouts, but I don't mind admitting as much or discussing the matter with people who can't get enough of them.

Maybe I'm missing something, but the only reason I can think of that might make other female members of this group reluctant to talk about shoulder riding is that they find it erotic, and in "polite" society, ladies do not tend to discuss erotic issues.  My own feeling is that unlike the worms, who probably don't enjoy being devoured, shared pleasure is good, healthy, and fun, and I'm not ashamed to say that I LOVE to ride. 

OK, inexperienced people might not understand, so I don't broadcast the fact over afternoon tea.  I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, nor do I want to be the subject of gossip, which for me is in the same category as Brussels sprouts.  But this group is special, because we're among friends, and it's nice to be able to share our thoughts about something that gives us pleasure.  I'd be as interested as anyone else to know something about the experiences and responses of the other female members of the group.

An afterthought.  All I know about riding is that it's always great fun and also, with a lover, a fabulous turnon.  Could it be that people for whom riding or being ridden is mainly, or exclusively, a domination issue have a whole different slant on sharing their feelings about it? 

Liz

Dear (or My Dearest in British English?   My intent is to express in a way most comfortable for you)? Liz:

My feelings about shoulder riding match all that you just expressed.  I probably made  it clear that  I too want  shoulder riding without sadomasochistic domination but as fun between carrier and rider that are enjoying each others' presence even though it appears that sadomasochistic participants enjoy each other's actions too which I will never understand. 

Regarding the meaning of the word, "domination," page 397 of the 1992 copyrighted version, (United States Library of Congress Catalog ISBN 0-679-41410-X) of RANDOM HOUSE WEBSTER'S COLLEGE DICTIONARY defines "domination" as " 1. an act or instance of dominating. 2. the exercise of rule or control."  "Dominate," in this dictionary, is defined as, "1. to rule over; control." Of course, people in general perceive the meaning of a word in common before the meaning is published in any dictionary. My point is that "domination" does not have to involve sadomasochism. An example of this rule or control would be when a polite and considerate gal (female person), whether she is six or twenty-six, politely asks me for a shoulder ride, my wife consents, I naturally want to comply, I help this gal mount up, the rider asks me to run, and I do. At this point the rider controls, rules, and dominates me. But if the rider attempted sadistic actions at that moment I would take actions to curb her behavior such that she would no longer be dominating or shoulder riding.  I suspect this is how you "dominate" Roger when you do and you know that you will fail to "dominate" or rule or control if you offend or anger him.  I am fortunate to have a wife who knows how to dominate me and how not to.  Women, naturally, also are far easier to "dominate" in this manner such that Her Highness We Know Who seldom refuses my request to ride on my shoulders even though such riding still frightens her. 

This happens in our backyard without mirrors such that I can not see how she is postioned to ride such that  maybe I just think we are complying with your suggestions on how to do a shoulder ride. No, no photos will be sent or published. Her Highness's wish for privacy will be honored. No, you are in no position to do corrective coaching at this time unfortunately. I perceive that it would be fun to have you demonstrate on Roger while Her Highness shoulder rides me next to you.

ponyxwoman wrote:

Ciao Friends

I would to partecipate to your discussion. Excuse me, but I do much work to understand english language, and excuse me, Liz and Sam, if I do not understand what you say.

Many times in the past I have expressed, in others shoulderride yahoo groups and in this group also, one same opinion expressed here by Sam: briefly, the 'domination' side is necessary in the situations where a woman ride a men. Otherwise we cannot  speak of 'woman ride man', but of 'woman carried by man', where the man control the situation and use the woman like a bag to demonstrate his strenght, ecc. I think in this case a woman do not enjoy herself, but is scared and uncomfortable. Listen, you potential man horses: your first aim is to give control to your woman rider, to obey to she want to do. Otherwise the ride fail. How much pathetic are all that ride situations where the man carry a screaming woman!
Of course, I think a 'masochist' character help to have good rides: the man must carry from 45 to 70 kg on shoulders for many minutes ( I think min 20-30 min, if the ride must be satisfactory for woman), and he must experience moments of suffering and hard work. But this not mean to have SM or BDSM scenes, with spurs or whip or others SM stuff.

Personally I love also situations where the woman is more sadist and obligate the man to do very hard work, because in this manner she educate the man to become a true man horse for ladies. But this is a my personal preference.

I hope you all enjoy of your manner to do or have rides.

Best regards
ponyxwoman

Como se dichi puesto en Italiano  (How is it said in Italian):

Your utilization of English does not need to be excused. It is much better than my usage of Italian.  I require no pardon from native speakers of Spanish, Japanese, etc. when I communicate in their language nor do I expect a request for a pardon when non-native speakers of English communicate with me in English. Trying to learn languages other than my first language enables me to understand and appreciate you difficulty in learning and communicating in English.

I agree with you that a man does not have to suffer from BDSM to give great shoulder rides or to prove that he is a tough man anymore than a rugby player, football player, wrestler, boxer, judo participant, water polo player, etc. has to be at the receiving end of spurs or whip to prove that he (or she) is tough.

I will never be a true "manhorse" involved with whips and spurs. I agree that if the rider is more demanding and the "horse" is compliant then the ride will be more like that on a horse.  I would be willing to comply with a shoulder riding woman's command such as, "Hyah! Giddy up!" and hope to hear her giggle as I comply. Her giggles and a hug and kiss after the ride would be positive reinforcement for such rides in the future.

Hi Jeff,

maybe you can ask her what she likes about riding on shoulders, if she accepts only a good view on concerts or if there is more? What does inspire her to a ride?

Thank you. Of course she is more than welcome to post herself.

Regrads, Louie