Ultimate shoulder rides

urfavtransgirlxo:

Yes effeminate gay men seem to take shorter steps and also keep their elbows closer  to their bodies. Often they have an unconscious sway in their hips/butts and the palms of their hands seem to be turned forward as they walk and they tend to walk more  upright.           These are just a few examples but if you watch guys you know are gay, you will notice many of them.

Of course you can choose the attitude you take with a carrier in any manner you are carried. However you are surrendering control in doing so.  This is fine  if you like things that way and don't mind the possibility of being the guys plaything or sex toy.
But in couples dynamics the power exchange  is something of a myth  because one partner will ultimately  take most of the control.  You have to decide if you want to stay on top or take the passive role.

I have found that among gay men, accepting yourself will result in having others accept who you are. I have no reason to think that it would be different for trans-girls.

urfavtransgirlxo:

Once again I have to stress that no one can direct you in the path you  should or will take. Yes you should follow your nature  but I will suggest you try both avenues.  Many of the men you encounter will have their own ideas and  you will have to see which ones  jell with your after testing them  by being dominant  and passive, especially when you have them carry you.

With piggyback type of  rides it may be harder to judge than if your sitting on his shoulders or on his back . I guardedly suggest you try as many ways as appeal to you. Some carriers  will see it as just play while others will crave submitting to you . At that point you can also become informed about your own desires and direction.

urfavtransgirlxo wrote:

Oooh that's really cool! I think I would probably like to try any of the ways that the carrier wants aswell, not just what I want, since I also want to fulfil his desires and make him happy too!

Would that include carrying him as well if that's what he wanted?

urfavtransgirlxo:
Based on my observation (since I have only been a rider),  I would advise against relationships involving trading position ie: rider and carrier  until and unless  you have  experimented    and experienced  the power position of  being at least a mildly demanding rider on a sturdy  but enthusiastic carrier.

Trading power positions in any relationship only tends to make the relationship confusing to both parties involved in both straight and gay relationships.

You don't have to be overly demanding or cruel  to establish  control  in this  since  most  carriers prefer and some even crave  serving beneath and being used by   enthusiastic and demanding riders.

urfavtransgirlxo:

I wish  you the best of luck in whatever path you choose.

But the one last piece of advice I must  give you is that if and when you  take on the dominant role, you might find that the submissive you choose  will respond better if you are  more dominant rather than less.
Being to soft  on a man will often make him feel that it's just a  game  and you're not serious.  He will just use  you for his own satisfaction  , demand that you  fulfill his  fantasies  and  ultimately  look for someone who will be  much more demanding.

you're welcomeee and tyyyyyyyyyyy